Houseguests

Well, Ted's friend and coding assistant is here for a week to try to get the demo ready for gameRNA's engine. It's a very exciting time, and I LOVE hosting people! Cooking and cleaning is actually more enjoyable when guests are over for some reason...Kind of odd. Last night I actually cleaned up and ran the dishwasher right after dinner--first time in a LONG time! I even surprised myself! I suppose it's easier and more fun when I know that I'm supporting my hubby in his dreams, even if it is just as simple as making food and cleaning house.

Then, this morning, I got up at 7am (unheard of!) and went walking and went to the grocery store to get some odds and ends and ended up making waffles, breakfast sausage, and coffee for the guys. I was content with Kellogg's red berries cereal and coffee. Now I'm about to clean my whole kitchen again, and I don't mind! What has come over me! :-) Should we have guests more often?

Actually, Ted and I have found that we really enjoy hosting people at our house--to the point where we see it as a ministry as a married couple. We never could have done something like this at our old apartment...so our house is wonderful. Just wonderful! God is so good.

Two Incredible Years

Today is my second wedding anniversary. It just perplexes me how fast time passes. When I was little, a year seemed like an eternity. Now, as I aproach 31 years, it passes in the blink of an eye. Well, I suppose when you've only been alive for 8 years, a year is 1/8 of your entire life! Perhaps that's why I see it differently now...

My husband is truly my best friend. We laugh at the same things, cry at the same things, view the world similarly, and both serve the Lord. We really are like two peas in a pod. As Ted's mother remarked one evening as the two of us were chortling at a sci-fi original movie:

"You two deserve each other!" (Ted's mom isn't a big fan of sci-fi and thinks it's hilarious that the two of us love it so much)

Now don't get me wrong, marriage hasn't been a bucket of fun ALL the time. It's much more work than I had invisioned. I've found that dying to myself and my selfish desires hasn't been easy. Thinking about another person before I think of myself hasn't been easy either. But my husband has shown me how to do that so awesomely and lovingly that it's become so much easier for me to do it myself. :-)

Ted cooks, cleans the bathrooms for me (which I utterly despise), supports me in my professional aspirations, is starting a multi-million dollar software company, and makes me laugh all the time. What more could I really ask for? When the two of us are old and decrepid in a nursing home together, we'll still be giggling and chortling watching sci-fi in the lounge area and some little old lady will walk by and remark,

"You two deserve each other!"

Which is exactly the way I would want it to be.

Facebook and Younger Users

Many people have asked me why I don't friend kids under the age of 13 on my facebook. I actually even lost a "friend" due to the fact that I wouldn't friend her son.

Here's my philosophy:

Because I'm a teacher, I'm an example. I also need to stay above the fray and avoid the appearance of impropriety on all accounts when dealing with children. Facebook actually has a policy that no children under 13 are allowed to have accounts. And in order to create one, a child must be dishonest about their age in order to do so. I don't know if they have changed it to accomodate parent permission, but I don't think so.

Facebook, while an amazing way to connect with others, makes me nervous when children are on it. There are just way to many ways for a child to get taken advantage of and hurt--whether by online bullying, inappropriate search material, or child predators. Originally, Facebook was for college students to connect with one another, but has ballooned out very similarly to MySpace (from which I deleted my account because I was disgusted with it, but that's a whole other blog).

I also believe that my students have no business being in my personal business and see how and what I communicate to my friends. My personal life and my professional life are very separate, minus being friends with some of my colleagues. But they are adults. I believe friending students is an accident waiting to happen. If anything were to happen, or if I were to be falsely accused of whatever (there are crazy parents out there), I want to make sure that if my facebook is checked I will be squeakly clean, with no connections whatsoever with online social networking of children who are under the age of 13.

Former students, who are OVER the age of 13, I don't have a problem with. I am not their teacher anymore, and they are old enough according to the rules. My children are going to be complaining all the time, because they will not be allowed to have a phone or do any social networking until they can drive. And even then it will be with restrictions. People do not realize the dangers their children face by connecting to the internet, and many times without direct supervision. I was an incredibly obedient kid growing up, but I still found porn on the internet--and hid it from my parents for a very long time before they figured it out. And that was at the tender age of 14.

In short, I believe it is better to err on the side of caution rather than make a regrettable online mistake by having a student or a younger child read about your personal life as an adult. I'm not saying I'm doing anything I'm ashamed of as a Christian, but there are things that adults discuss, etc. that children have no business knowing.

All that to say if I don't friend a kid, I give them an email address so that they can keep in touch with me in a controlled, safe environment. I strongly promote the safety of children online, and I believe facebook can compromise a child's safety.

On forgiveness....

After a while, if the offended harbors feelings of resentment toward the offender without attempting some sort of resolution, I do believe it is just as damaging as the offense itself.

There's a danger in taking credit for God's work.

There's a danger in taking credit for God's work.

"Know that the LORD is God. It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, the sheep of his pasture." -Psalm 100:3

Ultimately, all that happens FOR the Lord is BY the Lord Himself. We are merely his instruments here on earth. I feel so fortunate and blessed that God has chosen me to complete the work that HE is already doing around me. I cannot in good conscience take the credit or say that the awesome things that are happening in our girls ministry is BECAUSE of me. Because it is not. It happened because God wanted it to. I would be completely haughty and full of myself to say that I'm the reason the girls are there. People come to church because God speaks to their hearts. Of course, we are his people--his instruments. But honestly people, He could do it without us if he wanted to. He could do everything He desires without us. Hebrews 1 talks about the absolute deity of Christ and God the Father.

"But the Lord said to Ananias, 'Go! This man is my chosen instrument..." Acts 9:15a

If God used Ananias as his instrument, he can use all of us. But don't forget the unique purpose of an instrument--beautiful sounds can come from it, and it can look beautiful, but it is nothing without the master behind it. I've never heard someone say, "it's because of this instrument that I am so good." or "it was because of this instrument that I was moved." People aren't moved by the instruments THEMSELVES, they are moved by the passion, love, talent, and experience BEHIND the instrument--the MASTER!

I believe working for the Lord works exactly the same way. If we are his instruments, we shouldn't say "it's because of me that this person came to Christ" or "my influence is the cause of all of this amazing work of God that's happening around me".

"So he said to me, 'This is the word of the Lord to Zerubbabel: ' Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit', says the Lord Almighty.'" -Zechariah 4:6

There it is. It is not by human might or power that ANYTHING happens for the Lord. It is by God's Holy Spirit. Let's not puff ourselves up with pride by giving ourselves ANY of the credit. Because it isn't ours to get!!! The Glory is the Lord's, and the Lord's alone.

Crapshoot

Well, I'm sitting in the Jury Assembly room at the Tulsa County Courthouse bored out of my mind.

Ah, jury duty.

They need to have lazyboys and comfy beds in here so I can take a nap!

*sigh*.

Choose Joy

Choose joy.


"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." -Philippians 4:4-7


I'm not sure what I would do if it wasn't for this verse. It's like God said, "That verse needs to be in there just for Erin Goodridge." Or perhaps God just understands the human condition better than anyone else. Take your pick. I'll go for the former, since I love being the center of attention!


Today, June 21, would mark my brother's 28th birthday. Weird to think it will go by with little pomp or circumstance or the annual Happy Birthday phonecall. It will be 3 years in August that he chose to leave this earth. And while the excruciating pain has now faded, I still miss him.


Choose joy.


I can tell you that my life is divided into two parts: My life before Evan died, and my life after Evan died. Like a jagged tear in my timeline, Evan's choice affected me forever. A life just isn't the same as it was before a tragedy. Many people can attest to that.


Maybe that's why Paul said it twice: "I say it again, rejoice!" Making sure we knew it was a choice. Because when we choose, we own our attitude. We own the outcome of our choices, whether we like it or not. Paul also says, "Let your gentleness be evident to all." A tragedy also places a person on a faith fence....falling one way or the other--into God's arms on one side, or into the clutch of bitterness and blame. Again, that is a choice. A choice that will determine your life journey the moment you make it.

Choose joy.

I could have chosen to be angry--to hate God--to disavow prayer and even the existence of God. I even thought about it during the short time after Evan's death as I scrambled to get a flight home from Alaska to the east coast, or got off the plane to meet my devastated parents. Or touched Evan's casket for the last time before it was lowered into his grave. Evil speaks to confused and anguished hearts, pretending to satisfy a great need, but in the end destroys the spirit--and many times faith--right along with it.

Choose joy.

So I fell off my fence, laying limp and lifeless in God's arms. Although it seemed hopeless and unattainable, I weakly told my God that I chose Him. I chose joy. And then I prayed. And watched. And waited. And slowly, but very surely, God began to breathe a new life in me. A life of love, of forgiveness, of understanding, of grace. God was near to me and I called to Him daily. It wasn't--and still isn't--easy, but God never set a limit on prayers and petitions (thank you!). Because I did my part and chose joy, God has guarded my heart and my mind. I have a wonderful life. A loving and patient husband, two loving parents, two loving in-laws, an amazing church, and incredible friends. After Evan died, God grew my support system way beyond my imagination. And now, I can encourage others to choose joy. I am a success story. But not because of chance, but because of choice. I have the peace of God that transcends all understanding that Paul talks about. And I am so glad I chose joy over my other options.

Choose joy. It is not an easy choice, but with it follows peace and confirmation of God's everlasting, transcendental love. So I say it again: choose joy!